Are You Really In Love? 10 Signs That Prove You Love Him

The Great Guy (Pluck of the Irish) (Image via RottenTomatoes.com)

So, you've been going out with a guy for awhile now and are really attracted to him, but are you in love? How can you tell the difference between lust that will soon burn itself out or if what you're feeling will last longer? Maybe you've been in love before, or thought you were, but this time feels different. The truth is, every time you fall in love with a different man it will feel different. He's another person, and you've changed over time as well, so don't look at your past to decide if you're truly in love with the guy you're dating.

How to know if you're in love -
 

1. You no longer allow a past relationship to bother you. Before you may have thought about your ex and felt sad or angry, but now you either no longer think about him or when you do you let the thought pass without as much emotion attached to it. This shows that you're ready to love the new person in your life.
 

2. People around you may comment about how much you've changed—in a good way! You may have more patience, laugh more, feel happier, and treat others better. Love can make you feel very positive, no matter what's going on in your life at the time.

 

3. You think about him and want to be with him every chance you can. You want to fall asleep beside him at night and wake up in his arms. Every time the phone rings or you get a text you hope it's from him. The moment you wake up he's on your mind and he's the last thought on your mind before you fall asleep. Yes, you feel obsessed!

 

4. Whenever you talk about him to your friends and family you can't help but smile. He makes you feel that damn good inside. 
 

5. Time becomes warped. When you're together time seems to race by yet when you're apart it nearly stands still.
 

6. It's hard for you to concentrate or focus on anything else since thoughts of him consume you. Your mind goes over your last date, the last time you made love, his smile, things you talked about, plans you've made.
 

7. You share parts of yourself with him that you never had with anyone else. You can be silly, share your goals and dreams, talk about things from your past that used to bug you, or just veg out.
 

8.  All of your plans for the future now include him. If you think about holidays, trips you want to take, or things you plan to do, you imagine him with you through it all.
 

9. You're proud to take him home to your family and to introduce him to your friends. You want them to see what a great guy you've found and how happy the two of you are together.
 

10. When you look around your house you picture him living with you, or you find that you start looking at rings. This shows that marriage is on your mind!
 

It's easy to confuse lust with love, but if you find that many or all of these signs fit you, then it's safe to say that you're head over heels for this man. After reading this, do you feel you're in love? Are there any other signs about being in love that I haven't mentioned and you want to share with others who stop by Sinful Romance? Leave your comment! :)

 

Until next time...

 

May your dreams be sexy and your life sensational!

 

Kelly 

Romance Novels As Foreplay

As a romance author, people are always asking me why I write them.  I always turn the tables and ask, “Well, why do you read them?”  Over the years I’ve gotten a mixture of responses to this and I’ll share some with you here.

Most readers of romance and erotic romance say they read these novels because they’re lonely, not satisfied in their current sex lives, or simply enjoy being swept away by the stories and hot sex.  Who wouldn't swoon over a sexy cowboy with a sarcastic streak like Raif Manning in my novel Cowboys Make Better Lovers?  Or drool over the sleepy-eyed sex machine Trevor Scott and his "buffed up beefcake bod" in Best Friends Better Lovers?  Let’s face it, the characters in these novels are buffed, built, curvy and courageous.  They have lives we could only dream about and sex lives that go beyond our fantasies.  It’s a guilty pleasure.  A titillating past time. 

Can romance novels warp our way of viewing real relationships and real sex lives though?  This depends on a few factors.  Most people, such as myself, read them for nothing more than entertainment.  And, since I write them too, I like keeping abreast of what’s out there.  Some women write and tell me that it helps to get them in the mood for sex with their partner.  Sort of like foreplay.  Guys are usually faster than girls!

But there are people who think that their partner should be like the heroes in these books.  They should work at a high-paying high-profile job, romance them until they’re in a puddle at his feet, then bring them to an earth-shattering orgasm every night of the week.  They should also dress as if they stepped off the cover of GQ magazine and have a six-pack—on his stomach, not in his hand.  Yes, there are women who actually feel this way.

Like any decadent treat, romance novels should be enjoyed and savored, but shouldn’t take the place of a real and healthy relationship. 

Getting back to the subject title, is there something we can learn from romance novels?  Sure!  The characters always seem to grow as individuals and so should we.  Don’t remain stuck in your past, don’t set dreams aside, be independent, be confident, take care of yourself, initiate sex more often, and be honest with your feelings—with your partner and yourself.

Life may not be a romance novel, but it can be even better since your life and your partner are real.   

Thanks for stopping by! 

May your dreams be sexy and your life sensational!

Kelly